James Sexton—NYC divorce lawyer: real-life marriage, divorce, recovery, prenups, honest connection and legal/relationship advice.
“Marriage is not a happy ending. Every marriage ends, by death or divorce. The main cause of breakdown is the slow drift of disconnection.”
“True love is supporting your person—especially when they mess up. A prenup isn’t about lack of trust, but proof you can truly talk through hard things.”
“True love is supporting your person—especially when they mess up. A prenup isn’t about lack of trust, but proof you can truly talk through hard things.”
Scenes, Real Quotes & Lessons
“People think marriage is a fortress, but it’s a contract.”
“Divorce is rarely sparked by huge events—it’s tiny, repeated disconnections.”
“A prenup is not about assuming failure, but about building deeper dialogue while you still love each other.”
“Sustaining love is less about grand gestures, more about regular ‘small things’ and always being a fan of your partner.”
Divorce/Marriage/Relationship Rules
- The true source of failure: “Big crises don’t break most marriages—years of ‘minor disconnects’ do.”
- Key for happiness/growth: “Is your partner always your fan? Do you still show micro-acts of care daily? Self-awareness and honesty matter more than romance.”
- Prenup & Communication: “A prenup now is less awkward than a legal battle later. It’s a tool to practice talking through the hard stuff, not for lack of love.”
Q&A (Video Quotes)
Q: The real cause of marriage failure?
“It’s not infidelity or big events, but the accumulation of small disconnects—’the missing granola, the silent mornings.’ That’s where relationships really start to fade.”
Q: Key to happiness & resilience?
“The real power is a partner who has your back—someone who says ‘you’ve got this,’ even at your lowest. That’s the superpower of partnership.”
Q: Should everyone talk prenups?
“If you can’t talk honestly about prenups, you’re not ready for marriage. Use it as a litmus test for communication—not for lack of love.”
5 practical/relationship/societal tips
- See marriage as a blend of emotion, contract, and change—stay agile and open to imperfection.
- Focus less on drama, more on everyday acts of support—be your partner’s advocate in daily life.
- Get comfortable discussing prenup, endings, and conflict early, while the relationship is still strong.
- Build on self-understanding and honesty, not fantasy—insist on workable agreements, not just ideals.
- Divorce or failure is not a shame—it’s a platform for deeper self-knowledge and more authentic, mature bonds.
Conclusion—Divorce and Redefining Relationships
“Marriage and divorce are not about happily-ever-after or failure—they’re about honest talk, self-knowledge, and building more resilient relationships.”